Guide to Naming Guardians for Parents of Minor Children

What many parents don’t realize is that if something happens to them preventing them from caring for their children, in most cases, children are not placed with a loved one to comfort them in a familiar place.

The problem is that although many parents express verbally their intentions, they never give the intended guardian the legal authority to act. This often results in children being placed in protective custody with law enforcement in temporary situations (should you become incapacitated). Or, in the event of the parents’ death, placement in a foster home until the court designates a permanent guardian (often taking up to 18 months).

As a 15-year veteran of litigation, the thought of children being placed in the very unpredictable court system is unsettling. That’s why I make keeping families out of court and out of conflict, the focus of my law practice. I’ve designed this worksheet to help you understand some of the mistakes I see parents make when naming guardians and to help you avoid them.

STEP 1. When appointing guardians for your children, consider all possible parties including: Parents, Siblings, Friends, Godparents, Neighbors, and Former Roommates, Cousins or anyone. Remember most anyone is better than Foster Care/Protective Custody.

STEP 2. Consider common mistakes parents and their lawyers make when appointing guardians that you can avoid:

  1. Not considering priorities over people (i.e. Values/similar parenting styles)

  1. Naming couples without considering what if one dies or they split up

  1. Not naming alternative guardians (Name up to 3)

  1. Choosing by finances rather than values (It is your responsibility to maintain life insurance to support your children, not the responsibility of the guardian)

  2. Not using a trust to handle assets (causing an outright payment at age 18)

  1. Not excluding specifically undesirable people

  1. Failing to name short term guardians

  1. Failing to notify guardians you’ve named

  1. Not using legal docs (Your guardians need legal authority to act)

  1. Failing to leave specific instructions to caregivers

STEP 3: List your most important parenting priorities (parents should complete separately then compare lists). Consider: relationship child has with possible guardian, the guardian’s location, the guardian’s age, philosophies, religion, parenting style, if similarly, aged kids, importance of education, travel and extra-curriculars.

PARENT 1:

  1. _______________________________________________________________

  1. _______________________________________________________________

  1. _______________________________________________________________

PARENT 2:

  1. _______________________________________________________________

  1. _______________________________________________________________

  1. _______________________________________________________________

STEP 4: Rank the parents lists of priorities from the previous question.

PARENT 1:

  1. (Most important)___________________________________________

  1. (Somewhat less important)___________________________________________________

  1. (Not as important)__________________________________________

PARENT 2:

  1. (Most important)___________________________________________

  1. (Somewhat less important)___________________________________________________

  1. (Not as important)__________________________________________

STEP 5: List three people or couples who will raise your children with your above most important priorities in mind.

PARENT 1:

  1. _______________________________________________________________

  1. _______________________________________________________________

  1. _______________________________________________________________

PARENT 2:

  1. _______________________________________________________________

  1. _______________________________________________________________

  1. _______________________________________________________________

Consider couple choices (if one dies, do you still want to appoint the survivor as guardian?)

FINALLY: Remember that it is up to you as parents to determine and finance the life you want for your children; not the appointed guardian. Have proper life insurance policies in place to take finances out of the equation.

This worksheet is designed to get you to start thinking about the importance of guardianships. To learn more about how to put designated guardianships in place and give them the legal authority to act, contact our office at

www.LegalTransparency.com.

We can provide your family with the peace of mind in knowing that your loved ones will be cared for if something happens to you

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